Who needs love?

Hey y’all , hope you all are well and enjoying the week! As we stroll into Valentines Day weekend, you know I had to update my blog for y’all to set the mooooooood juuuu heard!? But nah, seriously, make sure after checking out my Blog Space, y’all head over to Zen Space and see the updates that have been made! So this blog post is going into relationships, of course the typical topic for discussion on Valentine Day weekend , (needy, by Ariana Grande) playing in the background as I write this post and just dedicated it to my boyfriend lol. I’m a mess sometimes! Anyways, as most of you all know, I have an amazing man by my side and although everything looks peachy keen on the outside, the inside is always being worked on as it should be. Many of you know that me and Americo are actually fairly new, but some people don’t actually. And so , we are definitely not in a “honeymoon” phase. To be honest, we never were. The course of our relationship consisted of organic and natural vibes and feelings, nothing was ever forced and it continues to grow that way. Because we took our time ( 1 year 1/2 to be honest) we had the time to learn the ins and outs, our deepest secrets and our quirkinesses and learn to love it all. Honesty, communication is something that we hold dear to the heart, and even though we have our constant ups and downs because of differences in characters, he is truly my other half. I have learned that true love is different everyday, especially when you have someone like Americo as your life partner. The best part of being with someone who is simply spontaneous and full of life is that everyday we learn something new about each other. It’s about being able to find something new to fall in love with each time, and that’s the beauty of this relationship I’m in. For anyone who has been in a long-term relationship, there is no single answer on how to keep the spark alive. When you first start dating someone, there are so many mixed emotions including butterflies, excitement, and a sense of mystery. As time goes on, your relationship transitions to long-term status, you have to learn what truly works in the relationship and how to maintain it day by day without making it feel like an obligation . Just because you've been with someone for what feels like forever doesn't mean the relationship has to become routine and boring. The point of being in a relationship is so you and your partner can constantly challenge yourselves to be the best that you can be; individually and together. Below are some examples of the things that work for my relationship, a list of things to do and already done ! 1. Plan a date night. 2. Take a trip together. 3. Try a new hobby as a couple. 4. Go out on a double date. 5. Surprise your significant other. 6. Take some "me" time. 7. Communicate your feelings. 8. Discuss the future. 9. Support one another's dreams. 10. Don't go to bed angry. 11. Make a bucket list together. 12. Try something new in the bedroom. 13. Get a couple's massage. 14. Team up in the kitchen and cook a new recipe. 15. Do something to show your significant other you care. 16. Remind her she's beautiful or that he's handsome. 17. Be honest about your feelings on a hot-button topic. 18. Respect one another. 19. Sign up for a class together. 20. Don't hold on to past grudges. 21. Make time for friends and family. 22. Do something you've never done before together. 23. Take a breather when you're fighting so you don't say something you'll regret. 24. Joke around with each other. Laughing is good for the soul. 25. Put an equal amount of effort into the relationship. 26. Mix up your evening routine by playing a board game. 27. Reminisce about your first date. 28. Have more sex. 29. Talk about an issue you've been sweeping under the rug. 30. Take time to really listen. 31. Be patient with one another. 32. Make time for one another as a couple. 33. Plan a spontaneous getaway. 34. Write a romantic letter or note. 35. Make breakfast in bed. 36. Plan an amazing date night at home. 37. Do something special for your anniversary. 38. Say "I love you" more. 39. Clean the house together. 40. Flirt with one another. 41. Focus on the positives instead of the negatives in your relationship. 42. Unplug for a night. No TV, computers, or phones. 43. Don't sweat the small stuff. 44. Do something you're scared of together. 45. Show some PDA. 46. Encourage one another to take on new challenges. 47. Take a bubble bath together. 48. Dress up for a date night. 49. Read a book together and talk about it. 50. Never forget why you fell in love in the first place! But wait a MINUTE! Who says every relationship doesn’t need a spice in the bedroom too! If your like me, I truly enjoy having sexy time with my man, dressing up and trying new things to please my partner and myself are always great ways to compliment the relationship and each other.

There’s nothing like planning sexy time at a hotel, or somewhere special , shit even your bedroom! Ladies, get that lingerie poppin, be a Queen and make your man melt for you! I am a big proponent of lingerie and getting all dolled up when planned because why don’t you want to remind ya man why he fell in love the first time? It’s not all love and emotions etc. Remember the sexual connection that also brings the two of you together as well. I know my mans loves it and so, below are some sexy time tips for special occasions or every day occasions as well!

1. Get behind & get ahead (sitting/standing behind your partner while getting a head start with kissing/rubbing) 2. Get naked too (join him, be proud of the body that you are in and give him a teaser) 3. Make him lift you up, because you’ve had a hard day (pick me up and pin me against the wall, shit throw me on the bed why don’t ya!) 4. Break out the blindfolds (when your blindfolded all of your other senses are heightened) 5. Climb on top (everything looks better when your on top) 6. Find his P-Spot (prostate spot, find it) 7. Fuck 69, try 77 (the 77 comes from the angle that you have sex in from laying down, creates just enough penetration) 8. Think outside the bed (random sex places) 9. Have him dance for you (Ginuwine- Pony, get ready zaddy) 10. Turn him into a buffet (whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate, come here) 11. Masturbate in front of him (why not please yourself in front of him, creates the anxious feeling of wanting to do it himself) 12. Make him beg for it (teasing is my specialty, make him want you bad) 13. Give him the silent treatment in bed (show him what you want without words, use other signs like moans, scratching, smiling, bitting your lips etc) 14. Ask him to flex or do some yoga ( watching his muscles flex and stretch is always a turn on, not just in the gym) 15. Talk dirty to each other (whisper dirty secrets in my ear) 16. Just hang out and watch some movies naked (definitely creates the handsy moments, who knows, you might be like us and not finish the movie). 17. Institute a no hands policy (tease him with telling him “hands off” and punish him every-time he does) 18. Cook dinner together naked 19. Give each other great massages while naked 20. Take bubble baths with candles 21. Tie them up! (50 shades, Christian Grey). 22. Tell him what you really think about his sex (boost his ego and massage that shit with sexy talk regarding his game) 23. Play around with the temperatures (ice cubes) 24. Make him describe exactly what he wants (make him tell you what he wants) 25. Use a vibrator together 26. Go for round 2 (ask for that shit, it works) 27. Have him climb on top and do all the work (sit back and relax) 28. Play rough (always , almost always leads into sexy time) 29. Do a quickie randomly (spontaneity is always great) 30. Play sex games (roll out the dice) 31. Try new positions (we never stay routine juuu heard) 32. And MOST IMPORTANTLY HAVE FUN! And the list goes on! Make sure to always keep it spicy and sexy! If this ain’t enough tips for y’all ! Idk what is juuu heard? Okurrrrtttt ! This is a short post because I wanted to give y’all something fun, but again, always remember that a relationship is like a working machine that always has to be oiled. Don’t make the relationship ever feel like an obligation, make it always feel organic and natural. When things are not forced, and not routine, but planned things will work out for the better. Hope y’all get some cute ass gifts for Valentine, some chocolates, flowers, etc. Even tho ya mans should be treating you like that on random days, have fun, have great sex, and share share share new things with me as well! Muahhhhsssss !